June 01, 2025

Offbeat Offline: May 2025 (Plus Announcing a Three-Month Break Before Life Breaks Me)


Welcome to Offbeat Offline, where I bring you up-to-date with what went on in my life during the month just gone, give you a sneak peek of my next shenanigans, and share my favourite posts of late!

What happened last month to yours truly? Perm woes (how original) on one hand, tiredness and distress on the other. Part of me would be happy to articulate my feelings, but the result would be too damn depressing to read. Suffice to say, I'm pretty down...but since I can't magically undo my existence or hitchhike for the TARDIS and scare my younger self out of her bad choices, I have to keep going. Which is the main reason why I decided to take a LONG hiatus this time - one that will encompass the whole summer...it will still take discipline for me to use it wisely, because I'm a hardcore procrastinator and time-waster, but I have to try. (More about the upcoming break in the Living & Screaming section).


📚 THE FALL CLUB. Even before I decided to take a summer hiatus, I was already reading and scheduling reviews for September-October books (which only confirms that I badly need a hiatus during which I can read whatever, regardless of pub dates). Waiting for the last minute in order to read ARCs is risky, considering how much time I can spend on a review...so, with those out of the way (so to speak - I've been having a great time with them so far), I'll finally be able to read without a schedule! Anyhow, here's a rundown of my bookish activity for the month...

Approvals (1):
A remote deserted island off the coast of Maine holds dark memories and disturbing secrets for the family who once lived on its rocky shores. Though nineteen-year-old Sally de Gama remembers nothing about the accident that took place on Captain’s Island and destroyed her family when she was a little girl, she suffers from intense anxiety, pervasive bouts of dissociation, and gruesome nightmares. 
All Sally knows is that her mother hasn’t spoken since the accident that took the life of Sally’s twin sister. Following the tragedy, her family fled and never looked back.
When her mother suddenly dies, Sally and three college friends travel to the island – for her friends it’s an adventure to a strange, abandoned place. For Sally, it’s a desperate bid to recover some of her memories and understand what really happened to her family. But when memories begin to return, Sally is overcome by grief and rage that threaten to plunge her into madness – a madness that is fed by a malevolent presence stalking them on the island.


Reads (3):
Two 18 y.o. girls - one mourning the tragic death of a classmate, the other of her mother - enter a tunnel rumoured to be able to bring back the deceased, and find themselves literally facing (sometimes even sharing) their past traumas and a shocking discovery. A creative, heartfelt and honest look at loss, grief, guilt, emotional abuse, generational trauma, mental health and growing pains, but also a celebration of love, family, friendship and empathy. There were some aspects I couldn't buy into, but I'm glad I read it, and I think most teens touched by grief and trauma will get a lot out of it.
A swimmer with ADHD and her best friend/elective sister, along with a ragtag team, set to track down the former's older brother, gone missing while trying to find evidence of local ghost stories and maybe solve the mystery of his mum's death. Yet another heartfelt story that combines magic, ghosts, found families, hurting and healing, and a coming-of-age arc.
  • The Garden of Before (The Between #2) by Ryan Leslie (Adult, portal fantasy/multiverse/sci-fi/mystery)
The explosive conclusion to The Between duology. Welcome back to the "between-worlds place of Escher-like rooms and horror story monsters, all with a mysterious connection to a command-line, dungeon explorer computer game from the early '80s" (from Book 1's synopsis), where the characters, now prisoners of their roles (but to an extent...), have no choice but to play the game until the end. Imaginative, engaging and visually stunning, rich in worldbuilding and character development/dynamics, and with a satisfying ending! What more can you ask from a sequel?


Reviews (3):
  • The Yomigaeri Tunnel by Kelly Murashige (see above)
Mini review posted last month.
  • Blue Ridge Calling by Olivia Neal (see above)
Review to come closer to pub date.
  • The Garden of Before (The Between #2) by Ryan Leslie (see above)
Review to come closer to pub date.

Normally at this point I would list the reviews I plan on posting and the TMST prompts I plan on answering in June, but as I said above, I'm going on a three-month hiatus. In the meantime, here's the TMST prompt list for the month of June, in case you want to join in (please note: the meme itself will go on hiatus in July and August, so look for the September prompts in the late summer!):

  • June 3th: Paper, electronic, audio...How do you read? Has it changed in recent years?
  • June 10th: New-to-me authors: who have you discovered in the past 12 months?
  • June 17th: How do you choose what to read next?
  • June 24th: Do you have any travel or staycation plans for the summer?


😫 PERMANENT ISSUES. New perm, same old story...my hairdresser tried her utmost, but I left her salon with a super-curly top (except for a few slightly looser strands), barely wavy hair in the middle section and on the sides, and a series of half-baked bends on the low rear 😱. To think that I even had her cut my hair short in order to get rid of the old perm and start as fresh as possible...I went back to the salon after letting the perm breath for a couple agonising weeks, and we tried again, but while the rear got better, the sides are more barely wavy than ever ðŸ˜­ (plus now I have really short hair for nothing). Which is when I realised I would have to look for yet another hairdresser..though I'm afraid it will be next to impossible to find one who uses the right curlers and the right curling method (which this one does) PLUS applies a stronger perming fluid, if they still exist (which this one doesn't - also, apparently they exist, but I don't think their chemicals are on a par with the old ones...). I know I come across as whiny, but I'd sell my soul for naturally curly hair, and the perms I've had for more than 30 years were a pretty good (and gorgeous) compromise, while since I had to part with my old hairdresser, I'm always a mess. I can't not perm my hair...it's not just a hairstyle for me, it's an extension of my personality...I can't give up on my curls. Besides, am I allowed to have at least one good thing in my life? 


😴 REST ROOM. So, I decided to take a three-month hiatus this time, because for a number of reasons it felt like the best course of action. (No worries though - I will most definitely resurface at the beginning of September. I could never revert to not having a blog, with everything it entails). I'm hoping it will do me more good than my usual month-long breaks, since they've proved too short for me to actually let go of my blogging "duties". Hear me out...
  • For the first time in...forever, I'm practically caught up with ARCs (I only have two left), so I'm going to take advantage of it. I'll still read of course, and I'll schedule a few reviews for the last quarter of the year, but at a much slower pace. Lately it's felt like I had to read too fast to compensate for my reviews taking so long to get written, and I wasn't savoring my books anymore. I can tear through a novel in two days, but what's the use? That way, they all start to blur together after a while. During the last couple of years I've developed reading anxiety, reviewing anxiety, even commenting anxiety, for goodness' sake. I don't want to burn out completely. I also hope to be able to sneak a few rereads in, because heck, I miss them.
  • The house is crumbling. My health (both physical and mental) is crumbling. There's so much to be done to repair both to the best of my ability. I'm well-aware that the summer isn't a great time to take long hiatuses with housekeeping in mind, because the heat brings me to my knees and I can only take refuge next to a fan and in front of a computer screen, but I don't want my reading and blogging to become my last resort - and there are still things I can do even when the heat is brutal, maybe small things like organising a drawer, but at least I'll feel less impotent in front of the *gestures* house crumbling thing. I'm hoping that, without the need to produce blog content for three months, I can do just that.
  • Also, blogging has felt like shouting into the void lately...many of my usual readers seem to be pulling their own disappearing acts, so I'm damning myself to produce the aforementioned content for...whom, exactly? I'm visiting...which blogs? There are a handful of you who still post consistently (or even a lot), and a whole wasteland where the others used to be. I hope we can all rest a bit, sort our matters out, and go back to being a (strong) community...


PUBLISHING NEWS/TIPS

None this month.

THINK-PIECES, DISCUSSIONS, ORIGINAL FICTION

REVIEWS/RECOMMENDATIONS

OTHER

That's it for now. My next post will be up on September 1st, and it will be a new Offbeat Offline installment (covering three months for the occasion - I'll try not to make it too long LOL). In the meantime, I'm going dormant for a while! but you can still find me on the usual SM, if sporadically (I usually check in once a day), and I plan on visiting your blogs again in a few weeks, when I (hopefully) am a bit more rested. At any rate, have a great summer!

So, what were your highs/lows in the past month?

28 comments:

  1. I hope your hiatus is restorative and that someone can figure out your hair. Have you tried an older stylist? I feel like the kids don't do perms any longer.

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    1. My current one is 49, so not exactly a baby, and the previous one was 10 years my elder...nevertheless, the mess was real 😭. The older one didn't even use the right method to ensure that all the hair got saturated...I'm gutted. Thank you for the well-wishes!

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  2. I hope you can find a hairdresser that does it the way you want.
    Thank you for the shoutout.
    I know a lot of bloggers don't post as much anymore. I still post almost everyday. Might as well do it while I have something to say and the time. lol

    I hope you find some great books to read.

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    1. You've been at it for 20 years, which is sort of a miracle in itself! Thank you.

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  3. I hope you have restful and restorative hiatus! I definitely agree it's been pretty quiet out in blogging - I think a lot of us are either just burnt out in general or have switched to substack where it's less pressure to focus on all aspects of blogging and just more of a focus on the writing part of it.

    Reviewing burnout is definitely a thing - it's kind of why I dropped reviewing as much (I'm also requesting much, much less these days). There's just only so much you can talk about books all the time for so long - but I think part of me also just misses reading for the sole purpose of reading for enjoyment without worrying about writing reviews all the time.

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    1. Thank you! To be honest, it's not like I feel the pressure, more like I put it on myself 😅. My aim is to review every book that I read, whether it's an ARC or not...crazy, right? But I do miss reading without review attachments, too...it's complicated LOL.

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  4. I really hope that you get some much deserved rest! I feel you, I know I have been fairly MIA myself (still posting but not as much, and woefully behind on reviews, which I have never done until this year, oof). I hope your health is okay this summer too- fingers crossed it won't be unbearable for you!

    I know that Sam said that the kids don't do perms, but it turns out they DO- only, it's the teenage boys! They have this hideous hairstyle I like to call "broccoli hair" but it requires a perm. So maybe things will be looking up, in the sense that younger stylists will need to brush up on their perming skills! (But tell them NO BROCCOLI for you, or we riot.)

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    1. 😂 To be honest, every kind of vegetable would be an improvement over the way I look now...😭

      You've been working and studying a lot this year, plus you had a bereavement in the family, plus you have two kids who are growing and doing all kinds of sports, so it's totally understandable that you couldn't sustain your usual rhythm. To be honest, I think it's amazing that you're still able to read and post so much! Thank you for the well-wishes 💚. You rest, too!

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    2. Aw thank you! We both deserve a nice, restful break. Whether we get it is another story entirely 😂 And I hope you get the hair thing to work out too- I promise the broccoli boys look worse hah!

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    3. Worse than lettuce hair? 😂 😭 😭 😭

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  5. I definitely feel the "shouting into the void " thing, its so sad when bloggers just disappear, but I get it. Burn out is real. I hope your long hiatus does wonders for your physical and mental health.

    And sigh, the perm. I'm the opposite, I grew up having stick straight hair but about 10 years ago my hair suddenly turned wavy, and I hate it! I'd love to have short hair again but I'm afraid of what it will look like, lol.

    Take care, Roberta!

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    1. Sometimes I think that most bloggers just take a hiatus thinking that they will come back, but at some point they are so far removed from it, it feels like a monumental task to start again. OK, life changes, things change, but...I don't know, maybe some of us simply get out of the blogging habit and don't feel motivated enough to start anew. Or...well, most have a life outside of blogging, and it makes demands or simply entertains them more...while some others cling to blogging even when it's hard, because it's all they have (*raises hand*).

      It's funny how your hair got wavy all of a sudden...usually, it tends to lose the curl with time, not the opposite...anyhow, none of us can seem to have what we want LOL.

      Thank you! Have a great summer.

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  6. "Part of me would be happy to articulate my feelings, but the result would be too damn depressing to read." This is how I feel every time I write an update post too.

    I'm sorry you STILL cannot get a proper perm. That's so frustrating. And I get that too. I'm clinging onto my piercings for as long as possible, despite issues and extra work, because they feel like one of the last bits of me I still have left. And we do deserve to have something good in our lives.

    It has been feeling a bit like shouting into a void for me too. I know I just haven't had the mental energy to comment on blogs, so I can't blame others for the same. Will you still be on X or Bluesky? Not that I am lol, but maybe I can pop in to make sure to stay in touch a bit. Hopefully your break will help and you can get some things sorted and at least a little better <3

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  7. HUGS to you Roberta. I hope you have better luck with a perm. When you explain how it is a part of you - your personality, etc., it makes it clear how important this is for you. I will send some positive energy.

    Since the summer can be very hot and as you mentioned, not the best time to get things done, can you block time each morning to get done one task - so it doesn't become overwhelming? Break up bigger projects into small bits. Set a timer so to stop and then know you'll start again the next day? I hope your hiatus is all you need it to be!

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    1. Thanks! 🧡

      The "break up bigger projects into small bits" approach is something I've been trying to do for years - alas, with very little luck, for a bunch of reasons - but my plans got derailed for good when my husband became bedridden. In a way, it's even more overwhelming, because tasks never end and one feels like nothing will ever get done anymore. Then again, it's the only thing I can do. Thank you for making the suggestion!

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  8. I hope your hiatus is a good one and I hate hearing about your perm woes. I used to get them in high school and then I had surgery when I was in my early 20s and my hair started coming in much curlier. I have embraced the curls but for a while, struggled with straightening it. Like you said, curly hair is part of my personality so I totally get you.

    I hope things improve health wise as well. I am not a fan of the summer heat either. So far though everything has been much cooler here than usual.

    I hope you get to enjoy some books while you are off and I will miss visiting! See you in September.

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    1. "I had surgery when I was in my early 20s and my hair started coming in much curlier."
      That's odd! At least the surgery had a silver lining. I've been perming my hair SINCE high school - it's been 43 years now, and for the first 30-something, under my first hairdressers, everything was perfect...(*sighs*).

      Does it get very hot where you live?

      "I hope you get to enjoy some books while you are off and I will miss visiting!"
      Thank you, and same!

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    2. Last year it pushed to heat indexes of 100 for several weeks. I'm in WV so we get our good share of all four seasons - except Spring. We also get shorted on Spring. But this year has been really slow to warm up.

      The woman who did my hair for years said that anesthesia can really change your hair. My mom was the exact opposite. She had curlier hair when she was younger and then after a surgery, it became straighter. I also think as I got older, more products came out to coax hair to its more natural abilities. I do the curly girl method now and it works pretty well.

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  9. Take care and try to enjoy yourself over the summer Roberta!

    'blogging has felt like shouting into the void lately' I know - there's not much blog-hopping going on at the moment (I haven't been consistent on that front, either, but, y'know... everything.) I think we can blame Booktok and/or AI - it's gotta be one of their faults, right? ;)

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    1. LOL, maybe not AI, but BookTok...I'm tempted 😉.

      Everyone of us hits a low now and then and needs a hiatus, or can't be consistent in blog-hopping - but lately it seems like we're doing the aforementioned thing all at once...

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    2. Yep - for the record, I read most of your posts, I just don't always comment because my social battery sucks, lol.

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    3. Thank you for letting me know - it means a lot to me! I'm guilty of the same thing from time to time...mostly, I'm too exhausted to articulate my feelings.

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  10. I have really difficult hair for different reasons and always used to get perms - but the top always fell right out - while the sides and back would last for over a year lol My stylist here is the first person in my life that *gets* my hair and cuts it so no extra work is required. She costs more but I will hang on to her with my dying breath lol
    I thought there was a rally for the older school bloggers for a little while there but it's fallen back off - myself included. I feel like I'm in limbo land - don't feel like doing it but refuse to quit haha

    Omnishambles

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    1. Between my hair and yours, we could make a proper head LOL. (Mind you, everyone's telling me that chemical have changed and keep changing...for the worse - less toxic, but they don't do their job the way they used to...😭). I'd be happy to pay A LOT more and get my old hair back...along with my sanity - so I hear you.

      I cling to blogging because it's the only (good) thing that I have left, but maybe, if I had a life, I would stop...like, I finally managed to schedule a review that I'd been writing for days - it's gotten ridiculous (and exhausting).

      Thanks for putting another weird word on my radar LOL.

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  11. Roberta, I'm sorry to hear that we'll be seeing you a bit less, but I'm happy to see that you're prioritizing your health and well-being. This all is supposed to be fun for us, so we can't let it get in the way of life. I've been very appreciative of your virtual friendship/support, so please don't be a stranger. I hope you get the rest that you need during this time. We'll still be here when you're ready to make a return.

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    1. "I've been very appreciative of your virtual friendship/support, so please don't be a stranger."
      Same! and I won't - our little club needs to stick together! I promise I'll be back in September 😊. Thank you for your well-wishes!

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  12. I hope your hiatus ends up being restful! And good luck on finding someone who can do your hair properly! That can be a real challenge.

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    1. Thank you! And...believe me, no one knows it better than me, after these latest ten years of trial and error 😭.

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